# 1 Aesop’s Fables (by Aesop)

• Self-help is the best help.

• Slow but steady wins the race.

• The greatest kindness will not bind the ungrateful.

• Misfortune tests the sincerity of friends.

• Old friends cannot with impunity be sacrificed for new ones.

• Whatever you do, do with all your might.

# 2 Brave New World (by Aldous Huxley)

• worthlessness of friends who could be turned upon so slight a provocation into persecuting enemies.

• One of the principal functions of a friend is to suffer (in a milder and symbolic form) the punishments that we should like, but are unable, to inflict upon our enemies.

• Happiness has got to be paid for.

# 3 Brave New World Revisited (by Aldous Huxley)

• City life is anonymous and, as it were, abstract. People are related to one another, not as total personalities, but as the embodiments of economic functions or, when they are not at work, as irresponsible seekers of entertainment. Subjected to this kind of life, individuals tend to feel lonely and insignificant. Their existence ceases to have any point or meaning.

• In a word, they failed to take into account man’s almost infinite appetite for distractions.

• most of us are half asleep all the time and go through life as somnambulists obeying somebody else’s suggestions.

• whatever their mental and physical diversity, love is as necessary to human beings as food and shelter; and finally the value of intelligence, without which love is impotent and freedom unattainable.

# 4 Lifehacked (Allen Wong) (by Allen Wong)

• True failure is never getting started in the first place.

• “Continuous effort - not strength or intelligence - is the key to unlocking our potential.”

• Becoming wealthy should be a side effect of your work.

• When I code, I don’t quit because the programming is too difficult. I quit because I fell asleep on the keyboard.

# 5 Choose Yourself! (by Altucher, James)

• And obsessing on the things we can’t control is useless.

• Success comes from continually expanding your frontiers in every direction—creatively, financially, spiritually, and physically.

• avoid people who bring you down.

• The past and future don’t exist. They are memories and speculation,

• People fool themselves into thinking that the currency of unhappiness will buy them happiness. That

• don’t stay at the job for safe salary increases over time. That will never get you where you want—freedom from financial worry. Only free time, imagination, creativity, and an ability to disappear will help you deliver value that nobody ever delivered before in the history of mankind.

• The only way to create value for yourself is to create value for others.

• It’s the external manifestation of if you better yourself, you better the lives of the people around

• Procrastination could also be a strong sign that you are a perfectionist.

• The Gift of Imperfection, but I’ll summarize it here: perfectionism is sometimes the most dangerous set of thoughts you can let make their home in your head.

• It is through silence that sound, activity, and action erupts.

• Wake up early. Avoid distractions. Work three to five hours a day and then enjoy the rest of the day. Be as perfectionist as you can, knowing that imperfection will still rule. Have the confidence to be magical and stretch the boundaries of your medium. Combine the tools of the medium itself with the message you want to convey. Don’t get stuck in the same rut—move forward, experiment, but with the confidence built up over experience. Change the rules but learn them first.

• When we were kids and took a bad test, everyone would yell, “I want a redo!” We’re not in school. We’re in life. You have your redo.

• The day and age of the massive corporations that take care of us from beginning to end are over.

• if you don’t make courageous choices for yourself, nobody else will.

• I never blame anyone but myself.

• Every second I am manipulated and coerced and beaten down it’s because I’ve allowed it.

• The idea that we need to “pay our dues” is a lie told to us by people who wanted our efforts and labor on the cheap.

• Too many people die while climbing the perilous mountain of their goals.”

• You can only make money doing what you love.

• Not only did he identify the next step, but he took it.

• DON’T LEAD A DOUBLE LIFE. Everything you do takes up space in your brain. If you live a double life (and you know what I mean if I’m talking to you), then that extra life takes up neurons and synapses working overtime.

• And your finances, which are a reflection of the health of your brain, will fall straight into the sewer with it.

• DO WHAT YOU SAY YOU ARE GOING TO DO.

• Competent people move forward and do what they do.

• third will like you, a third will hate you, a third won’t care…no matter what you

# 6 The Power of No (by Altucher, James, Altucher, Claudia Azula)

• being clear about which relationships and which people we let into our lives is the key to access our creative forces.

# 7 2010: Odyssey Two (by Arthur C. Clarke)

• (he had abandoned Remembrance of Things Past for the third time, Dr Zhivago for the second),

# 8 3001: The Final Odyssey (by Arthur C. Clarke)

• religion was the by-product of fear - a reaction to a mysterious and often hostile universe.

# 9 Elon Musk: Tesla, SpaceX, and the Quest for a Fantastic Future (by Ashlee Vance)

• “When Elon gets into something, he develops just this different level of interest in it than other people. That is what differentiates Elon from the rest of humanity.”

• “My mentality is that of a samurai. I would rather commit seppuku than fail.”

• “You don’t get to where Elon is now by always being a nice guy, and he was just so driven and sure of himself.”

• Do or die but don’t give up.”

# 10 The Fountainhead (by Ayn Rand)

• most people take most things because that’s what’s given them, and they have no opinion whatever?

• Men are important only in relation to other men, in their usefulness, in the service they render.

• That was what made a man happy—to sit looking dreamily into a fire, at his own hearth, in his own home; that’s what he had always heard and read.

• it doesn’t matter what we are or do, if we help others?

• what makes people unhappy is not too little choice, but too much,”

• “Worry is a waste of emotional reserves. Very foolish. Unworthy of an enlightened person.

• One loses everything when one loses one’s sense of humor.”

• the sin that can’t be forgiven—that I hadn’t done what I wanted.

• A truly selfish man cannot be affected by the approval of others. He doesn’t need it.”

• I think the only cardinal evil on earth is that of placing your prime concern within other men.

• It stands to reason that where there’s sacrifice, there’s someone collecting sacrificial offerings.

• “Men have been taught that the highest virtue is not to achieve, but to give. Yet one cannot give that which has not been created. Creation comes before distribution—or there will be nothing to distribute. The need of the creator comes before the need of any possible beneficiary. Yet we are taught to admire the second-hander who dispenses gifts he has not produced above the man who made the gifts possible. We praise an act of charity. We shrug at an act of achievement.

• “Degrees of ability vary, but the basic principle remains the same: the degree of a man’s independence, initiative and personal love for his work determines his talent as a worker and his worth as a man. Independence is the only gauge of human virtue and value. What a man is and makes of himself; not what he has or hasn’t done for others. There is no substitute for personal dignity. There is no standard of personal dignity except independence.

• The world is perishing from an orgy of self-sacrificing.

# 11 Doctor Zhivago (by Boris Pasternak, Richard Pevear and Larissa Volokhonsky)

• Pasternak portrays happening as it happens, which is what Tolstoy also set out to do.

# 12 Losing My Virginity (by Branson, Richard)

• ‘Live for the present –’ I heard my parents’ old maxim in the back of my head ‘– and the future will look after itself.’ My

• fun is the secret of Virgin’s success. I

• It’s just a matter of scale, but first you have to believe you can make it happen.

• lists of people to call, lists of ideas, lists of companies to set up, lists of people who can make things happen. Each day I work through these lists, and it is that sequence of calls that propels me forward.

• just how slim the line is between genius and insanity and between determination and stubbornness.

# 13 How To Win Friends and Influence People (by Dale Carnegie)

• I would rather walk the sidewalk in front of a person’s office for two hours before an interview than step into that office without a perfectly clear idea of what I was going to say and what that persob - from my knowledge of his or her interests and motives - was likely to answer.

• Only knowledge that is used sticks in your mind.

# 14 Infinite Jest (by David Foster Wallace)

• ‘There’s more to life than sitting there interfacing,

• Tennis’s beauty’s infinite roots are self-competitive.

# 15 Bold: How to Go Big, Create Wealth and Impact the World (by Diamandis, Peter H.;Kotler, Steven)

• Today the shift from “I’ve got a neat idea” to “I run a billion-dollar company” is occurring faster than ever.

• Recognizing when a technology is exiting the trough of disillusionment and beginning to rise up the slope of enlightenment is critical for entrepreneurs.

# 16 I Am a Strange Loop (by Douglas R. Hofstadter)

• Though the primary brain has been eclipsed, there is, in those who remain and who are gathered to remember and reactivate the spirit of the departed, a collective corona that still glows. This is what human love means.

# 17 Into the Wind: My Six-Month Journey Wandering the World for Life’s Purpose (by Ducey, Jake)

• “Most of us are busy gambling on the most dangerous risk of all—living our whole life not doing what we want on the bet that we can buy the freedom to do it later.”

# 18 The Goal: A Process of Ongoing Improvement (by Eliyahu Goldratt)

• productivity is meaningless unless you know what your goal is,’’

# 19 The Escape Manifesto: Quit Your Corporate Job. Do Something Different! (by Escape The City)

• “I’d rather be a failure at something I love than a success at something I hate.”

• Study hard what interests you the most in the most undisciplined, irreverent and original manner possible.

• you’ll always either be too young and not have enough experience, savings or contacts or too old and feel that it’s too late

• “How much better to know that we have dared to live our dreams than to live our lives in a lethargy of regret.”

• There is an instruction manual for the conventional life. It involves keeping your head down and doing what you’re told. We are probably the most over-qualified and over-educated working generation in the history of humankind.

• Your friends, family and other people in your life will discourage you from a decision that they perceive as being risky precisely because they care about you.

• Comfort Kills Ambition. It’s so easy to cruise through your years – achieving little, risking little – just existing.

• You may even explain why other people can do certain things but you can’t (a very easy trap to fall into).

• The number one regret was “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

• just go with whatever feels right at the time and stay confident that things will work out.

• Randy Komisar (author of The Monk and The Riddle) calls it “The Biggest Risk of All” (the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later).

• It seems that most of us could benefit from a brush with a near-fatal disaster to help us recognise the important things that we are too defeated or embittered to recognise from day to day.

• It is easy to get so bound up in the race to climb your career ladder that you can often forget to ask whether you are climbing the right one.

• If you were to die right now, how would you feel about your life?

• Once you realize that there is no one higher up than you whose job you want it should then become a question of “when do I leave?” not “if”.

• the purpose of work is to allow you to create and contribute a meaningful, useful, and beautiful body of work to the world and along the way, take care of your financial needs.

• Life On Air

• you can’t just run away from something, you also need to run towards something.

• Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.

• “Ask yourself: ‘If I had unlimited, time, talent, money, ability, self-confidence and support from my family, what would I do?’ Then, list the steps necessary to achieve these goals.”

• “Money frees you from doing things you dislike.

# 20 Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products (by Eyal, Nir)

• If you only build for fame or fortune, you will likely find neither. But build for meaning and you can’t go wrong.

# 21 The Now Habit (by FIORE, PH.D., NEIL)

• the fear of being imperfect (perfectionism),

• If you are threatening yourself with self-hatred and a life of unhappiness unless you achieve your goal, it’s impossible to concentrate on the work in front of you now.

• terror of being overwhelmed, the fear of failure, and the fear of not finishing. These

• Be alert to when preparation becomes procrastination.

• value of real, completed, imperfect work versus late, incomplete, ideal work.

• Acknowledge that valuable time is being wasted on polishing in an attempt to ensure perfection.

• What distinguishes a champion from others of comparable ability is the learned skill of bouncing back from disappointing performances.

• Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task.

• There is no path in life that requires no effort.

# 22 The Brothers Karamazov: A Novel in Four Parts With Epilogue (by Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Richard Pevear and Larissa Volokhonsky)

• Above all, do not lie to yourself. A man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point where he does not discern any truth either in himself or anywhere around him, and thus falls into disrespect towards himself and others. Not respecting anyone, he ceases to love, and having no love, he gives himself up to passions and coarse pleasures, in order to occupy and amuse himself, and in his vices reaches complete bestiality, and it all comes from lying continually to others and to himself. A man who lies to himself is often the first to take offense. It sometimes feels very good to take offense, doesn’t it? And surely he knows that no one has offended him, and that he himself has invented the offense and told lies just for the beauty of it, that he has exaggerated for the sake of effect, that he has picked on a word and made a mountain out of a pea—he knows all of that, and still he is the first to take offense, he likes feeling offended, it gives him great pleasure, and thus he reaches the point of real hostility

• I think that whatever one does one ought to do well,

• So do not be like everyone else; even if you are the only one left who is not like that, still do not be like that.”

• Love will satisfy only the moment of life, but the very awareness of its momentariness will increase its fire, inasmuch as previously it was diffused in hopes of an eternal love beyond the grave’

• let us all seize the favorable moment of our being together in order to say a good word to each other as well. And so I do; while I am in this place, I make the best of my moment.

• It is better to let ten who are guilty go, than to punish one who is innocent—

• You must know that there is nothing higher, or stronger, or sounder, or more useful afterwards in life, than some good memory, especially a memory from childhood, from the parental home. You hear a lot said about your education, yet some such beautiful, sacred memory, preserved from childhood, is perhaps the best education. If a man stores up many such memories to take into life, then he is saved for his whole life. And even if only one good memory remains with us in our hearts, that alone may serve some day for our salvation.

# 23 The Surpisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results (by Gary Keller)

• (“Toss a frog into a pot of hot water and it will jump right back out. But if you place a frog in lukewarm water and slowly raise the temperature, it will boil to death.”)

• Not everything matters equally, and success isn’t a game won by whoever does the most.

• Long hours spent checking off a to-do list and ending the day with a full trash can and a clean desk are not virtuous and have nothing to do with success.

• law of gravity, and yet most people fail to see the gravity of it. It’s not just a theory—it is a provable, predictable certainty of nature and one of the greatest productivity truths ever discovered.

• Extraordinary results are disproportionately created by fewer actions than most realize.

• multiple tasks being done simultaneously by one resource

• It’s not that we have too little time to do all the things we need to do, it’s that we feel the need to do too many things in the time we have.

• success is about doing the right thing, not about doing everything right.

• Habits, on average, take 66 days to form.

• When we tie our success to our willpower without understanding what that really means, we set ourselves up for failure.

• Pursuing a balanced life means never pursuing anything at the extremes.

• When you’re supposed to be working, work, and when you’re supposed to be playing, play.

• Start leading a counterbalanced life. Let the right things take precedence when they should and get to the rest when you can.

• “We are kept from our goal, not by obstacles but by a clear path to a lesser goal.”

• To live great, you have to think big.

• Don’t fear big. Fear mediocrity. Fear waste. Fear the lack of living to your fullest.

• prime condition of success, the great secret—concentrate your energy, thought and capital exclusively upon the business in which you are engaged.

• Anyone who dreams of an uncommon life eventually discovers there is no choice but to seek an uncommon approach to living it.

• What’s the ONE Thing I can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?

• “People do not decide their futures, they decide their habits and their habits decide their futures.”

• Highly successful people choose to live at the outer limits of achievement.

• Highly successful people choose to live at the outer limits of achievement. They not only dream of but deeply crave what is beyond their natural grasp.

• building block of all business profit. The two are inseparable. A business can’t have unproductive people yet magically still have an immensely profitable business.

• lays out life as a series of connected choices,

• you’d do with it.” I believe that financially wealthy people are those who have enough money coming in without having to work to finance their purpose in life.

• Sticking with something long enough for success to show up is a fundamental requirement for achieving extra-ordinary results.

• hyperbolic discounting—the further away a reward is in the future, the smaller the immediate motivation to achieve it.

• It’s why most people never get close to their goals. They haven’t connected today to all the tomorrows it will take to get there. Connect today to all your tomorrows. It matters.

• “Efficiency is doing the thing right. Effectiveness is doing the right thing.”

• where you are and where you want to go.

• Block an hour each week to review your annual and monthly goals.

• Don’t break the chain.”

• “Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after another.”

• With your priorities clear, the only logical course is to go to work.

• “Nobody who ever gave his best regretted it.”

• Nothing is more futile than doing your best using an approach that can’t deliver results equal to your effort.

• “Are you doing this to simply do the best you can do, or are you doing this to do it the best it can be done?”

• Too many people reach a level where their performance is “good enough” and then stop working on getting better.

• When life happens, you can be either the author of your life or the victim of it. Those are your only two choices— accountable or unaccountable.

• Highly successful people are clear about their role in the events of their life. They don’t fear reality. They seek it, acknowledge it, and own it.

• “Focus is a matter of deciding what things you’re not going to do.”

• the more things you do, the less successful you are at any one of them.

• Learning to say no isn’t a recipe for being a recluse. Just the opposite. It’s a way to gain the greatest freedom and flexibility possible.

• “If you don’t take care of your body, where will you live?”

• Extraordinary results require you to go small.

• Your life is like this. You don’t get a fully mature one. You get a small one and the opportunity to grow it—if you want to. Think small and your life’s likely to stay small. Think big and your life has a chance to grow big. The choice is yours.

• It’s only when you have faith in your purpose and priorities that you’ll seek out your ONE Thing. And once certain you know it, you’ll have the personal power necessary to push you through any hesitancy to do it.

• “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

• Go live a life worth living where, in the end, you’ll be able to say, “I’m glad I did,” not “I wish I had.”

• A life worth living might be measured in many ways, but the one way that stands above all others is living a life of no regrets.

• live your life to minimize the regrets you might have at the end.

• feelings weighed too heavy to handle; I wish I hadn’t worked so hard—too much time spent making a living over building a life caused too much remorse.

• I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself not the life others expected of me.

• “Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.”

• So make sure every day you do what matters most. When you know what matters most, everything makes sense. When you don’t know what matters most, anything makes sense. The best lives aren’t led this way.

• “When people look back on their lives, it is the things they have not done that generate the greatest regret…. People’s actions may be troublesome initially; it is their inactions that plague them most with long-term feelings of regret.”

• When you bring purpose to your life, know your priorities, and achieve high productivity on the priority that matters most every day, your life makes sense and the extraordinary becomes possible.

• Time block with yourself to make sure the things that matter get done and the activities that matter get mastered.

• that the secret to extraordinary results is to ask a very big and specific question that leads you to one very small and tightly focused answer.

• If you try to do everything, you could wind up with nothing. If you try to do just ONE Thing, the right ONE Thing, you could wind up with everything you ever wanted.

# 24 The Complete Novels Of George Orwell (by George Orwell)

• Tragedy, he perceived, belonged to the ancient time, to a time when there was still privacy, love, and friendship, and when the members of a family stood by one another without needing to know the reason. His mother’s memory tore at his heart because she had died loving him, when he was too young and selfish to love her in return, and because somehow, he did not remember how, she had sacrificed herself to a conception of loyalty that was private and unalterable. Such things, he saw, could not happen today. Today there were fear, hatred, and pain, but no dignity of emotion, no deep or complex sorrows.

# 25 The Richest Man in Babylon (by George S. Clason)

• good luck waits to come to that man who accepts opportunity,"

• “he accepts not opportunity when she comes. He waits. He says I have much business right now. Bye and bye I talk to you. Opportunity, she will not wait for such slow fellow. She thinks if a man desires to be lucky he will step quick.

• attract good luck to oneself, it is necessary to take advantage of opportunities.

• Good luck can be enticed by accepting opportunity.

• “Gold is reserved for those who know its laws and abide by them.”

• THE FIVE LAWS OF GOLD

• If you desire to help thy friend, do so in a way that will not bring thy friend’s burdens upon thyself."

• BETTER A LITTLE CAUTION THAN A GREAT REGRET

• WE CANNOT AFFORD TO BE WITHOUT ADEQUATE PROTECTION

• If a man has in himself the soul of a slave will he not become one no matter what his birth, even as water seeks its level? If a man has within him the soul of a free man, will he not become respected and honored in his own city in spite of his misfortune?’

• the soul of a free man looks at life as a series of problems to be solved and solves them, while the soul of a slave whines, ‘What can I do who am but a slave?’

• WHERE THE DETERMINATION IS, THE WAY CAN BE FOUND

# 26 No More Mr. Nice Guy (by Glover, Robert)

• Nice Guys tend to analyze rather than feel. They may see feelings as a waste of time and energy. They frequently try to keep their feelings on an even keel.

• Nice Guys are frequently isolated.

• Nice Guys are usually only relatively successful.

• Almost without exception though, they fail to live up to their full potential.

• An integrated male doesn’t strive to be perfect or gain the approval of others. Instead he accepts himself just as he is, warts and all. An integrated male accepts that he is perfectly imperfect.

• Nice Guys believe they should be able do everything on their own. They have a difficult time asking for help and try to hide any signs of imperfection or weakness.

• Breaking free from the Nice Guy Syndrome involves a radical change in perspective and behavior. Trying to do it halfway will only result in needless suffering.

• “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always had.”

• By trying to please everyone, Nice Guys often end up pleasing no one — including themselves.

• “If a man is talking in the forest and no woman is there to hear him, is he still wrong?”)

• If you were not concerned with getting the approval of women, how would your relationships with the opposite sex be different?

• cover it up. As stated above, everything a Nice Guy does is calculated to try to win approval or avoid disapproval.

• Nice Guys build walls that prevent others from getting too close. Understandably, this affects their ability to be intimate, but it also protects them from the consequences of being found out. These walls might include: Addictions (food, sex, t.v., alcohol, work, etc.), humor, sarcasm, intellectualism, perfectionism, and isolation.

• While desiring love and connection, his behaviors serve as an invisible force field that keeps people from being able to get close to him.

• Nice Guys have a difficult time comprehending that in general, people are not drawn to perfection in others. People are drawn to shared interests, shared problems, and an individual’s life energy.

• Humans connect with humans. Hiding one’s humanity and trying to project an image of perfection makes a person vague, slippery, lifeless, and uninteresting. I often refer to Nice Guys as Teflon Men. They work so hard to be smooth, nothing can stick to them. Unfortunately, this Teflon coating also makes it difficult for people to get close. It is actually a person’s rough edges and human imperfections that give others something to connect with.

• By shedding their chameleon skin and learning to please themselves, recovering Nice Guys begin to experience the intimacy and connection they have always desired.

• Nice Guys often believe it is a virtue to have few needs or wants.

• Nice Guys are extremely uncomfortable when they actually do get what they want.

• mature people make getting their needs met a priority.

• Putting the self first is essential for getting what one wants in love and life.

• Having needs is part of being human.

• This world is a place of abundance.

• Nice Guys have believed a myth that promises them that if they give up themselves and put others first, they will be loved and get their needs met.

• trying to create a predictable life in which everything always goes as planned is an exercise in futility.

• As a consequence of playing it safe, Nice Guys experience a lot of needless suffering.

• Telling the truth is not a magic formula for having a smooth life. But living a life of integrity is actually easier than living one built around deceit and distortion.

• Life won’t always be smooth, it may not always be pretty, but it will be an adventure — one not to be missed.

• It seems that each successive generation of men are becoming more and more passive.

• Many women have shared with me that due to the absence of any discernible life energy in Nice Guys, there is little to be attracted to.

• Most women do not want a man who tries to please them — they want a man who knows how to please himself. Women consistently share with me that they don’t want a passive, pleasing wimp. They want a man — someone with his balls still intact.

• if you want an undesirable behavior to go away, you stop paying attention to it.

• the nicer the guy, the darker the sexual secrets.

• Sex is a basic human drive.

• The Nice Guy’s sexuality doesn’t go away, it just goes underground.

• Getting good sex is dependent on recovering Nice Guys bringing their shame and fear out of the closet and into the open were they can be looked at and released. This step cannot be skipped!

• “No one was put into this world to meet your needs but you.”

• Good sex consists of two people taking full responsibility for meeting their own needs. It has no goal. It is free of agendas and expectations. Rather than being a performance, it is an unfolding of sexual energy. It is about two people revealing themselves in the most intimate and vulnerable of ways. Good sex occurs when two people focus on their own pleasure, passion, and arousal, and stay connected to those same things in their partner. All of these dynamics allow good sex to unfold in unpredictable, spontaneous, and memorable ways.

• As you look at the reality of your life, ask yourself two questions: First, are you creating the life you want? Second, if not, why not?

• Fear Prevents Nice Guys From Getting the Life They Want

• Striving for perfection keeps Nice Guys focused on their imperfections.

• Seeking external validation and approval keeps Nice Guys stuck in mediocrity.

• Because they believe they have to do it all themselves, Nice Guys rarely live up to their full potential.

• Because they believe they have to do it all themselves, Nice Guys rarely live up to their full potential. Nobody can be good at everything or succeed all on their own.

• many Nice Guys developed a deep-seated sense of inadequacy.

• Most folks — Nice Guys included — do not consciously take responsibility for creating the kind of life they want. Most people just accept where they are and act as if they have little power in shaping an exciting, productive, and fulfilling life.

• A conscious decision to not settle for mediocrity.

• The only thing stopping you from having the kind of life you really want is you.

• How does your perfectionism or need to do it right get in the way of realizing your passion and potential?

• A major reason Nice Guys frequently fail to live up to their potential is that they believe they have to do everything themselves.

• As mentioned earlier in the chapter, Nice Guys find numerous creative ways to sabotage their success in life. They waste time, they procrastinate, they start things but don’t finish, they spend too much time fixing other people’s problems, they distract themselves with trivial pursuits, they create chaos, they make excuses.

• In order to start getting what they want in life, work, and career, recovering Nice Guys have to make the conscious decision to get out of their own way.

• Accept “good enough” rather than “perfect”

• Don’t star t new projects until the old ones are completely finished

• Finish what you start

• Due to their early life experiences, Nice Guys tend to be ruled by deprivation thinking. They believe there is only so much to go around, and if someone else already has a lot, there is less for them.

• what one man can do another man can do.

• If one man can make a million dollars, why can’t you? If one man can start the business of his dreams, why can’t you? If one man can drive a Mercedes, why can’t you? If one man can quit a crummy job and find a better one, why can’t you? If one man can be a snowboarding instructor, why can’t you?

• Mature, successful people establish their own rules. These rules are measured by only one standard: Do they work?

• Don’t settle. Every time you settle, you get exactly what you settled for.

• If it frightens you, do it.

• If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got.

• Remove yourself from a bad situation instead of waiting for the situation to change.

• Stop blaming. Victims never succeed.

• Don’t do anything in secret.

• Have fun. If you are not having fun, something is wrong.

# 27 The Dip: A Little Book That Teaches You When to Quit (and When to Stick) (by Godin, Seth)

• You really can’t try to do everything, especially if you intend to be the best in the world.

• Strategic quitting is the secret of successful organizations.

• the real success goes to those who obsess. The

• the real success goes to those who obsess.

• Quitting requires you to acknowledge that you’re never going to be #1 in the world.

• If the journey you started was worth doing, then quitting when you hit the Dip just wastes the time you’ve already invested.

• Quit in the Dip often enough and you’ll find yourself becoming a serial quitter, starting many things but accomplishing little.

• If you can’t make it through the Dip, don’t start.

• When you’re the best in the world, you share the benefits (the income, the attention, the privileges, the respect) with just a handful of people or organizations or brands.

• the big benefits accrue to those who don’t quit.

• If you’re going to quit, quit before you start.

• Which is precisely why so few people end up as the best in the world.

• The next time you catch yourself being average when you feel like quitting, realize that you have only two good choices: Quit or be exceptional. Average is for losers.

• The temptation to be average is just another kind of quitting…the kind to be avoided. You deserve better than average.

• Do you know an entrepreneur-wannabe who is on his sixth or twelfth new project? He jumps from one to another, and every time he hits an obstacle, he switches to a new, easier, better opportunity. And while he’s a seeker, he’s never going to get anywhere.

• Persistent people are able to visualize the idea of light at the end of the tunnel when others can’t see it.

• The only reason to stay is the short-term pain associated with quitting. Winners understand that taking that pain now prevents a lot more pain later.

• The decision to quit or not is a simple evaluation: Is the pain of the Dip worth the benefit of the light at the end of the tunnel?

• You should quit if you’re on a dead-end path. You should quit if you’re facing a Cliff. You should quit if the project you’re working on has a Dip that isn’t worth the reward at the end. Quitting the projects that don’t go anywhere is essential if you want to stick out the right ones.

• The time to look for a new job is when you don’t need one. The time to switch jobs is before it feels comfortable.

• Mediocre work is rarely because of a lack of talent and often because of the Cul-de-Sac. All coping does is waste your time and misdirect your energy. If the best you can do is cope, you’re better off quitting.

• “Never quit something with great long-term potential just because you can’t deal with the stress of the moment.”

• changing someone’s mind is difficult, if not impossible.

• Quitting a job is not quitting your quest to make a living or a difference or an impact. Quitting a job doesn’t have to mean giving up. A job is just a tactic, a way to get to what you really want. As soon as your job hits a dead end, it makes sense to quit and take your quest to a bigger marketplace—because every day you wait puts your goal further away.

• So, there’s tool number one. If quitting is going to be a strategic decision that enables you to make smart choices in the marketplace, then you should outline your quitting strategy before the discomfort sets in.

• If I like my job, is it time to quit?

• Are you avoiding the remarkable as a way of quitting without quitting?

• If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try.

• We fail when we give up too soon.

• We succeed when we are the best in the world at what we do.

• We fail when we get distracted by tasks we don’t have the guts to quit.

# 45 Waking Up: A Guide to Spirituality Without Religion (by Sam Harris)

• We manage to avoid being happy while struggling to become happy,

• wandering mind is an unhappy mind.”

• Meditation doesn’t entail the suppression of such thoughts, but it does require that we notice thoughts as they emerge and recognize them to be transitory appearances in consciousness.

• most people are simply too distracted by their thoughts to have the selflessness of consciousness pointed out directly.

# 46 On the Shortness of Life (Penguin Great Ideas) (by Seneca)

• People are frugal in guarding their personal property; but as soon as it comes to squandering time they are most wasteful of the one thing in which it is right to be stingy.

• Assuredly your lives, even if they last more than a thousand years, will shrink into the tiniest span: those vices will swallow up any space of time.

• it is generally agreed that no activity can be successfully pursued by an individual who is preoccupied – not rhetoric or liberal studies – since the mind when distracted absorbs nothing deeply, but rejects everything which is, so to speak, crammed into it.

• you must not think a man has lived long because he has white hair and wrinkles: he has not lived long, just existed long.

• deceived because it is an intangible thing,

• But putting things off is the biggest waste of life:

• vices have to be crushed rather than picked at.

• Of all people only those are at leisure who make time for philosophy, only those are really alive.

• But life is very short and anxious for those who forget the past, neglect the present, and fear the future.

• External goods are of trivial importance and without much influence in either direction: prosperity does not elevate the sage and adversity does not depress him. For he has always made the effort to rely as much as possible on himself and to derive all delight from himself.

• Petty is the mind which delights in earthly things: it should be led away to those things which appear everywhere equally, everywhere equally lustrous.

• If you consider that sexual desire was given to man not for enjoyment but for the propagation of the race, once you are free of this violent and destructive passion rooted in your vitals, every other desire will leave you undisturbed.

• ‘Let no one rob me of a single day who is not going to make me an adequate return for such a loss. Let my mind be fixed on itself, cultivate itself, have no external interest – nothing that seeks the approval of another; let it cherish the tranquillity that has no part in public or private concerns.’

• ‘euthymia’

• so in choosing our friends for their characters we shall take care to find those who are the least corrupted:

• Though a man’s loyalty and kindness may not be in doubt, a companion who is agitated and groaning about everything is an enemy to peace of mind.

• He will live badly who does not know how to die well.

• He who fears death will never do anything worthy of a living man.

• Know, then, that every condition can change, and whatever happens to anyone can happen to you too.

• The next thing to ensure is that we do not waste our energies pointlessly or in pointless activities: that is, not to long either for what we cannot achieve, or for what, once gained, only makes us realize too late and after much exertion the futility of our desires.

• Many people live a life like these creatures, and you could not unjustly call it busy idleness.

• So let all your activity be directed to some object, let it have some end in view.

• That is why we say that nothing happens to the wise man against his expectation.

• it is more civilized to make fun of life than to bewail it.

# 47 The Perks of Being a Wallflower (by Stephen Chbosky)

• At those times, you weren’t being his friend at all. Because you weren’t honest with him.”

# 48 The Swerve: How the World Became Modern (by Stephen Greenblatt)

• “Idleness is the enemy of the soul,”

# 49 Poirot and Me (by Suchet, David)

• It has always been my view that we, as human beings, go through our lives like spiders spinning our threads behind us, but only by looking backwards do we see how the past affects the present, and how those threads of our lives fit together.

# 50 Quiet (by Susan Cain)

• The key to flow is to pursue an activity for its own sake, not for the rewards it brings.

• In business, you have to put a lot of nonsense together and present it.

• We find so many people impatient to talk. All this talking can hardly be said to be of any benefit to the world. It is so much waste of time.

• “To thine own self be true,”

• And if we act out of character by convincing ourselves that our pseudo-self is real, we can eventually burn out without even knowing why.

• Researchers have found that intense engagement in and commitment to an activity is a proven route to happiness and well-being.

• Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to.

# 51 Technological Slavery (by Theodore J. Kaczynski)

• Discourse on the Arts and Sciences (1750), and to Henry David Thoreau’s anti-technological musings in Walden (1850).

• “The most common lie is the lie one tells to oneself; lying to others is relatively the exception.”

• Most people have friends, but friends nowadays tend to use each other only for entertainment. They do not usually cooperate in economic or other serious, practical activities, nor do they offer each other much physical or economic security. If you become disabled, you don’t expect your friends to support you. You depend on insurance or on the welfare department.

# 52 Acid Test: LSD, Ecstasy, and the Power to Heal (by Tom Shroder)

• Imperial College London

• the idea that the dramatic psychedelic experience is rooted in the diminishment of the parts of the brain that impose a pragmatic, top-down order on the signals coming in from the world should

• we tend to overvalue Western-style rationality and undervalue the more visionary wisdom of the type accumulated over thousands of years of prehistory,

• “If there’s a splinter,” Michael said, “it’s important to get the splinter out, but there may be a scar; that is part of healing. It’s still there, but it’s healed.

# 53 A Thousand Tiny Failures (by Tony D)

• You are only what you do right now; your actions, and the story you leave behind.

• until you bang her, there is no relationship. You have a friendship.

• view the whole process as something separate from my reality,

• practice until they master the fundamentals: body language, fashion, grooming, vocal-tonality, verbal-improvisation, eye-contact, sexual-escalation and ego.

# 54 Delivering Happiness (by Tony Hsieh)

• Many of our other roommates applied for banking or management consulting jobs, both of which were considered the “hot” jobs to get. To me, they both seemed incredibly boring, and I also heard that the workdays were sixteen hours long.

• But we wanted to run our own business and be in control of our own destiny. This wasn’t about the money, it was about not being bored.

• “Vest In Peace.”

• What is success? What is happiness? What am I working toward?

• I made a list of the happiest periods in my life, and I realized that none of them involved money.

• I realized that building stuff and being creative and inventive made me happy. Connecting with a friend and talking through the entire night until the sun rose made me happy. Trick-or-treating in middle school with a group of my closest friends made me happy. Eating a baked potato after a swim meet made me happy. Pickles made me happy.

• I thought about how easily we are all brainwashed by our society and culture to stop thinking and just assume by default that more money equals more success and more happiness, when ultimately happiness is really just about enjoying life.

• I didn’t know exactly what I was going to do, but I knew what I wasn’t going to do. I wasn’t going to sit around letting my life and the world pass me by.

• I had decided to stop chasing the money, and start chasing the passion.

• I made a note to myself to make sure I never lost sight of the value of a tribe where people truly felt connected and cared about the well-being of one another.

• committed to living by the philosophy that experiences were much more important to me than material things.

• “Envision, create, and believe in your own universe, and the universe will form around you,”

• Are you taking enough risks? Are you afraid of making mistakes? Do you push yourself outside of your comfort zone? Is there a sense of adventure and creativity in the work that you do?

• How do you grow personally? How do you grow professionally? Are you a better person today than you were yesterday?

• remember that at the end of the day it’s not what you say or what you do, but how you make people feel that matters the most.

• must never settle for “good enough,” because good is the enemy of great,

• Ask yourself: How can you do what you’re doing more efficiently?

• There’s never one way to do things, but an incredible amount of ways to get things done.

• now know that any issue arising in life is a welcome challenge where I can learn and grow.

• Ask yourself: Are you passionate about the company? Are you passionate about your work? Do you love what you do and who you work with? Are you happy here? Are you inspired? Do you believe in what we are doing and where we are going? Is this the place for you?

• no matter what happens, we should always be respectful of

• you never know when something you perceive as a negative will ultimately turn out to be a good thing.

• No matter what your past has been, you have a spotless future.

• “We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.”

# 55 Superhuman by Habit: A Guide to Becoming the Best Possible Version of Yourself, One Tiny Habit at a Time (by Tynan)

• Focusing on results, especially short term results, is an excellent way to add stress to your life, which is an excellent way to quit a habit associated with that stress, thus ensuring no long term results are ever achieved. Track your adherence to process, not your results.

# 56 Bang: The Pickup Bible That Helps You Get More Lays (by V, Roosh)

• let’s take a look at the average beta male. His number one defining trait is a fear of going after what he desires. He doesn’t pursue what he wants because he doesn’t think he’s capable of getting it. He worries about other people’s needs before his own.

• The alpha male doesn’t care about what other people think of him.

• The alpha male doesn’t make apologies for being a man who has sexual needs.

• As a sexual being, he expects women to be sexual as well.

• The alpha male has high expectations of women. He doesn’t do nice things for them without expecting something in return.

• He makes it clear that he’s not on this Earth to service her with free alcohol or food. Everything she gets from him must be earned.

• the alpha male is always willing to walk away.

• The willingness to walk away, above all other factors, does more to tell a woman of your high value than any amount of money can.

• that’s what the game is about—getting what you want the way you want, without having to sacrifice your beliefs or values.

• If you master only one skill, it should be the approach.

• You try more, you get more—there’s no secret to it.

• A man who doesn’t get rejected is one who isn’t reaching his true potential.

# 57 Annihilation: A Novel (The Southern Reach Trilogy Book 1) (by VanderMeer, Jeff)

• when you see beauty in desolation it changes something inside you.

• The dirt and grit of a city, the unending wakefulness of it, the crowdedness, the constant light obscuring the stars, the omnipresent gasoline fumes, the thousand ways it presaged our destruction … none of these things appealed to me.

• some questions will ruin you if you are denied the answer long enough.

# 58 Mindfulness in Plain English (by Venerable H. Gunaratana Mahathera)

• Learning to look at each second as if it were the first and only second in the universe is most essential in Vipassana meditation.

• There are three integral factors in Buddhist meditation — morality, concentration and wisdom.

• The object of Vipassana practice is to learn to pay attention.

• Feeling is one of the seven universal mental factors. The other six are contact, perception, mental formations, concentration, life force, and awareness.

• This goal has five elements to it: Purification of mind, overcoming sorrow and lamentation, overcoming pain and grief, treading the right path leading to attainment of eternal peace, and attaining happiness by following that path.

• do not change your original position, no matter how painful it is.

• There is a difference between being aware of a thought and thinking a thought.

• Somewhere in this process, you will come face-to-face with the sudden and shocking realization that you are completely crazy. Your mind is a shrieking, gibbering madhouse on wheels barreling pell-mell down the hill, utterly out of control and hopeless.

• “I am about to tread the very path that has been walked by the Buddha and by his great and holy disciples. An indolent person cannot follow that path. May my energy prevail. May I succeed.”

• When any mental state arises strongly enough to distract you from the object of meditation, switch your attention to the distraction briefly. Make the distraction a temporary object of meditation.

• The purpose of meditation is not to concentrate on the breath, without interruption, forever. That by itself would be a useless goal.

• the meditator observes experiences very much like a scientist observing an object under the microscope without any preconceived notions, only to see the object exactly as it is. In the same way the meditator notices impermanence, unsatisfactoriness and selflessness.

• Mindfulness is participatory observation. The meditator is both participant and observer at one and the same time.

• Fully developed Mindfulness is a state of total non-attachment and utter absence of clinging to anything in the world.

• If your meditation isn’t helping you to cope with everyday conflicts and struggles, then it is shallow. If your day-to-day emotional reactions are not becoming clearer and easier to manage, then you are wasting your time.

# 59 Travels with Willie: Adventure Cyclist (by Weir, Willie)

• In our consumer culture, time is undervalued.

• Every one of them had enough money to travel the world several times over, but most were bankrupt of free time.

• Isn’t it ironic that we can spend hundreds of hours in front of a computer screen researching and dreaming of traveling in a distant land, then the first thing we do when we arrive there is to seek out a computer screen, only to stare at news and photos of the place we’ve just left?

• It’s hard to resist the urge to plug into the digital umbilical cord when it is available 24/7.

• “Caution keeps you aware. Fear keeps you away.”

• So plan a journey, listen to only those who have gone before you, be cautious, and have the adventure of a lifetime.

• Adventure is rarely determined by the destination you choose, but by the method of travel and route you take to get there.

• Thailand has the three ingredients that make any country a pleasure in which to travel: friendly people, beautiful scenery, and incredible food.

• “Travel now. Get on your dumpy, used bike and go somewhere, anywhere. Those people who tell you that it doesn’t get easier? They’re right.”

• “Travel now. Get on your dumpy, used bike and go somewhere, anywhere. Those people who tell you that it doesn’t get easier? They’re right.” “Go before you have debts and mortgages and kids and a career. Go. The gravitational pull of home will never be lighter.”

• “Travel now. Get on your dumpy, used bike and go somewhere, anywhere. Those people who tell you that it doesn’t get easier? They’re right.” “Go before you have debts and mortgages and kids and a career. Go. The gravitational pull of home will never be lighter.”

• “Travel now. Get on your dumpy, used bike and go somewhere, anywhere. Those people who tell you that it doesn’t get easier? They’re right.” “Go before you have debts and mortgages and kids and a career. Go. The gravitational pull of home will never be lighter.” A few of them get it. But most get a car and a wallet full of credit cards.

• “Travel is worth nothing unless you return home a better person for it.”

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